Getting To Know The Writer: Drew McGill
I met Drew my freshman year in high school. Drew is one of the many people along my teenage years that changed my opinion about poetry. I used to hate poetry, but now it is one of my greatest healing tools. I have stayed connected to Drew through social media and enjoy reading his posts. When I first put energy behind building this blog, Drew was one of the people I invited to join and share his writing.
I am honored to have him participate in this. Read Drew's responses to my questions below to get to know a bit about one of the blogs new writers. Thank you each for reading and joining us.
What do you do for work? Passion work?
As a job I'm a Barista at Starbucks. I don't like working for such a large company, especially in this capacity, but I enjoy my fellow employees and I like the work. I still haven't found what I would consider my passion work. I think making music was as close as I ever got, and the one time I visited NASA in Houston. Honestly, being a father is my favorite thing I have ever done.
Is there a reason you want to share your writing with others?
I have shared my writings with people in my past. I had two poems published while I was in high school, and I would share others on social media. For me, it's a way to express myself. I get to talk about my feelings and ideals in a way that feels intellectual, and in some degree entertaining.
How has your relationship with the written word developed over the years?
I didn't always like writing. Early in life I was more interested in painting and drawing. I still like to draw, and paint, and do other arts and crafts. Writing has always felt more personal though, quietly sitting alone, searching your soul for the perfect combination of feelings and words to scribble out onto paper in order to draw some kind of emotion or response from the reader. The older I got, the more I appreciated this, and so I began to write more frequently. It's funny though, I've loved writing for a while now, but I only recently started to genuinely enjoy reading.
Would you share what you feel in general about how fatherhood is portrayed in society?
I don't think fathers are given enough credit, even in today's society. We've come a long way but, we could do better. There are many reasons I feel as to why, but I think mainly society puts a lot of pressure on mothers to raise the kids. I feel that men are not encouraged or supported by society or each other to take as active of a role in parenting. I feel with all the ways we have to connect to each other, and share our lives, that the image of the father and where they fit into the family element is changing for the better.
Are you comfortable sharing about your personal journey as a father of a young girl?
Absolutely. I'm very proud of being a father, especially to a baby girl. I was actually hoping to have a little daughter. I don't know why exactly, but I do know I couldn't be happier, maybe, it's because I like a challenge.
What topics are you passionate about personally?
I'm passionate about climate change, civil rights, science, equality. I'm sure there is more, I'm a fairly passionate person and I'm capable of becoming rather invested in anything at any moment.
Are there certain topics in your writing influenced specifically by major events in your life?
For me, my writing is always influenced by my life and the things I experience or have seen.
Who are your support people personally known?
My support people would be my wife, my parents, and most of my family. I have a good relationship with my family, so I'm very fortunate to have a lot of people in my corner I can turn to.
Who are support people that are not personally known, but work or art that continually inspires you?
I don't tend to often draw inspiration from other people, but I'd have to say Edgar Allen Poe has always been a person I resonated with. I also enjoy Tim Burton a lot. I feel my style has reflected a sense of darkness, and at times quirkiness.
What do you most want to write about?
I don't have any aspirations to write about any one thing in particular. I tend to write best when I go in open minded and just let my heart guide me.
How do you interact with emotions?
Sometimes really well, and other times not very well at all. I find myself at times to be able to control my emotions and shift my perspective in order to maintain that control. Other times, I feel like I completely succumb to my emotions and I let them get the better of me. I can act out and say things to people that I really regret.
Are there certain ways you communicate with yourself and your wife that have evolved and strengthened over the years?
I think in any relationship that has spanned a decade or more, communication styles are ever evolving in the same way the people in those relationships are ever evolving. My wife and I, I feel work together very well, we have our moments, but for the most part we are strong partners.
Do you have any self care tools you would like to share with our readers?
Create a place and time for yourself. If you can't maintain a sense of self autonomy, and independence you can lose yourself.
What makes you laugh and brings you joy?
My daughter, people being kind to one another, my family, the smell of a bookstore, these things bring me joy. Many things bring me joy, but not everything that brings me joy always brings me joy. That's the joy of depression. A lot of weird things make me laugh. Anything from farts to high comedy. It all really depends on the delivery, and the message behind the joke. Much like music, I like jokes that have a narrative, even if it's obscure.
How did you meet your wife?
What is one of your favorite things about her as I'm sure she is amazing?
We met at Summit Mall. She was working at Bath and Body Works, a store over from where I was working, Journey's. My manager was her friend and he mentioned that he was training an attractive new guy and she came to see me. After some time talking on AOL instant messenger, MySpace, and on the phone she invited me over. She was going to massage school in Akron and lived in an apartment by herself. I drove through a blizzard late one night to go hang out with her for the first time ever at her place. She didn't have cable at the time, so we talked, watched movies, and played with her cat. The next morning when I went to go leave, I noticed my car buried in 4 feet of snow. I was trapped at her place for 3 days in a row before the city cleared the roads enough that I could leave. We spent a lot of time getting to know each other that weekend, and the rest is history. Amanda in general is an amazing woman. She and I can drive each other crazy at times, and sometimes I have no idea what she's thinking, but despite all of that she is my rock. She is the embodiment of my sanity. For a period of time I was having many frequent panic attacks and troubles with anxiety. The only thing that made me feel better was being around her and just laying next to her.
What has been valuable advice that has gotten through certain spaces in life?
I was raised by good, understanding people. I think some of the best things I was taught was how to love myself, how to be kind to others, and how to take pain and work hard.
Would you be willing to talk about a difficult time in your life and how you got through it?
I would be. I can't think of any particular moment right now, but I'm sure you will see some of that in my writing. I have no problem admitting mistakes or talking about hard or embarrassing things that have happened throughout my life. I think one of the best things we can do is be open and honest about those things. It's the dents and dings we accumulate through life that really give us, as individuals, our character. I also never let that one thing, or moment define me as a person. It's more of what you do and how you respond to those moments that really define you.
----- Thank you so much Drew for sharing about yourself and your life! It is exciting to have the beginning of this journey on the blog and I am sure everyone looks forward to hearing more from you.
Drew's Author Bio:
Drew is a Barista, a husband, and a father, among many other things. He comes from a small town in Ohio, and still calls it home. He left for a while to live life and do some adventuring with his wife, but as they were getting ready to get married, they both thought it was important to move back close to family so they could start one of their own. He loves the outdoors, art, music, science, archaeology, history, literature, architecture, and so many other things. He considers himself to be an intellectual and intelligent, but guesses that’s relative. What he is, undoubtedly, is very inquisitive. He doesn’t always need an answer to his questions, because sometimes the best thing about trying to find answers, is chasing a mystery.